New England Style

June 19, 2009 - One Response

I have to say, my “up -brining” in New England has always had a huge effect on my style  – L L Bean and Ralph Lauren leading the way.

When I think of fashion, I think of New England – Rocky beaches,  woods, the most beautiful fall leaves, Witch Trials and WASPS.  New England is the classiest place in the United States.  I am an east coast boy and I would barf if I was transplanted in the west (minus Washington state and Montana).

Some icons that bring me back to the style are:

The characters from Margot at the Wedding(especially Margot).  Typical New England bitch, played  by the one and only Nicole Kidman.



Sissey Spacek from In The Bedroom  – This is the “It’s chilly outside and I look so cozy, I want a book” look.  Does’t she look so cozy? Even with that cancer stick, Sissy Spacek in  In The Bedroom takes you to a cozy new england place with a cup of hot cider.


Nicole Kidman as Virgina Woolf in The Hours. Altough her character (virgina wolf) was British (we like Cornwall) , her style is beautiful.  Plus, they dont’t call it “NEW” England for nothing.


Winona Ryder in The Crucible.  The Crucible has some of the best fashion I have ever seen.  This movie is about witch trials in Massachusetts.  It’s brilliant. It’s dark. It’s cozy. Its New England.


All the Characters in BeetleJuice.  BeetleJuice actually takes place in my home state of Connecticut.  The fashion in this movie is incedibly chic.



Finally, some accessories for a complete New England Style:

Volvo station wagon 240 (A MUST HAVE)


Bike with a Basket (For weekends in Nantucket)


L.L. Bean Boots (are a MUST).  With all the rain and snow that comes in the fall/winter/spring and SUMMER, you cannot live without these.

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A haunted house ( All houses in New England are haunted. If yours isnt, GET OUT)


A Night Cap

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Finally, Candles. Not scented candles (although Yankee candles, we love) but you’ll find that your electricity goes out in the winter all the time because if blizzards with snow that is so high, you cant open your door.


Just make sure you have a overly judgmental and “im better than you” personality, and you will fit right in with other New Englanders.


Fashion is not bragging.

June 16, 2009 - One Response

The last time I told someone what designer I was wearing, it was “Good Will”.  Ever heard of him?

I have a few designer things, and I am proud of those things – But its never good to BRAG or “buy and tell” as I like to call it.

If one is into fashion, thats fine. If one is partial to a designer, fine. But it is ugly to go around telling everyone what you are wearing. Its ugly, its unattractive, and it makes you look like a total “label whore”.

I thought this was a problem mainly in America— but obviously, like most things, it has its European roots. And I have seen the ugly side of fashion after living in Milan.

I think a lot of individuals are insecure and thus get some kind of worth from telling their friends all about the new Margiela or Prada they bought.

If you can make a lower end (cheap) product look expensive and chic, then you are a true fashionista.  If the only way you know how to look and feel good is through expensive labels, then you really arent’ a fashion trendsetter, you are just fortunate to be able to buy those clothes.


Natural Disaster: Worst Shoes of All Time

June 12, 2009 - Leave a Response

My last blog inspired me to show you a list of the WORST shoes of all time.

1.  Slip on Vans

Ugly. Make your foot look like a big old CLUNKER and are not alternative.  Any Van rip off also pisses me off.


2. Toms Shoes.

Okay, great. Maybe they are for a good “cause”… but personally, if you want to do something for a good cause, buy a nice pair of shoes and ship it over to Africa yourself. I’m sure those kids would prefer a nicer looking shoe… not something that looks like a turd with a sole.


3. Merrel Shoes.

Speaking of turds — Welcome to Merrel Shoes.


4.  Women’s Rain Boots.

So. Annoying. Last time I checked, if you want to wear Rain Boots, dont put an ugly ass pattern on it that makes me want to die and CLASHES with everything you’re wearing.  Hunter rain boots are fine…Classic black or yellow rain boots are fine… Anything else. Throw Away.

rain boots

5. Suede Boots

What else can I say —- They look like you’re trying way to hard, and get real freaking leather. I hate suede boots. Esp fake suede.


6. Crocs / those Teva Sandals




Can you think of any else? Im in class… trying to look at the shoes of the individuals in my class.

Natural Disaster: Flip Flops

June 12, 2009 - Leave a Response

I don’t know if “flip flop” is a term that my italian friends are aware of – but I know they are aware of their disgusting appeal.

I hate flip flops. On guys. On girls. On trannys. On kittens.  Flip flops are disgusting and only good for inside of your house because the floor is dirty.  They are 1. Trashy.  2. Trashy. 3.Guido.  4.Low Class 5. Very Old Navy, 5.Trashy  6.Cheap 7. Never acceptable in ANY circumstance.

Flip flop users, keep your flip flops inside. One of the most appalling things seen by my Italian friends is Americans walking around in flip flops.  And I couldn’t agree more.

OH and PS-  flip flops in winter is not cool. You are not bad ass for wearing your flip flops in the snow… get over yourself and put on some freaking shoes. You look like an idiot.


Return To Brugge 2009

June 11, 2009 - Leave a Response

In three weeks, I will be back.  Back to Brugge. What can I say?  I am euphoric. I cannot wait to take care of my favorite kids; go on walks, go to the park, make them do homework (hehehe), cook, play… It all sounds so amazing right now.

After 5 months in this hell, I cannot wait to get back to Europe, back to life.

I have kept my mouth shut for the past semester, and I am surprised that I really made it this long.

The first thing I want to do in Brugge is get frittes.  After, I want to get a waffle.  After that I want to sleep.


Summer Shoes: Rene Magritte

June 7, 2009 - Leave a Response

My inspiration :


Here’s what I bought via Zappos:

new sandal

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Legally Single. I might be against Gay Marriage.

May 28, 2009 - Leave a Response

Proposition 8. Enough already. As a gay man, you might be surprised to hear that I was not shocked that the outcome of Proposition 8 in California was upheld. Infact, I’m not so sure I would have voted any differently then the most conservative citizen of the United States of America who has little to no contact with a gay person. 

The freedom and the right to get married comes down to one thing for the gay community: respect. My mother always told me; in order to get respect, you have to respect yourself first. 

For many uninformed Americans, there is a stereotype for the gay community; sex, drugs, disease, and partying. Respect worthy? No, I dont think so. As a gay man, I am certainly aware that this stereotype is not necessarily true for the entire gay community. However, to most uninformed Americans, this is the only picture that is being painted over and over each year to remind them of how disgusting the gay community can be…. and I totally agree. It is disgusting. 

The day I can go into a gay bar and not feel like I lost my virginity from every poking finger to my ass, or shower stalls in the middle of the club for men to publicly shower in and engage in sexual acts, or bathroom stalls that are solely for the purpose of sex, is the day that I might think gay marriage is possible. 

One of the most important and influential factors to informing the uninformed about homosexuality is Gay Pride. Gay Pride for me is more like Gay Ashamed. Every year, in Chicago during the Gay Pride festival, I used to stay clear of anything north of Michigan Avenue. What I saw at Pride was shocking. 

Stop using your dicks, and start using your voices. 

If you want to be heard, keep your shirt on and your legs closed. Blow jobs in alleys, crude displays of public affection on every float, drunk gay guys making out with anyone who has a face … I feel like I’m getting an STD just from thinking about it. 

I think pride in oneself is a beautiful thing. But I dont see pride at Gay Pride events, I see sex. And if I see it, then America sees it too. 

Gay awareness and pride is something that America needs. I think the original concept of Gay Pride was perhaps a beautiful and powerful thing, but it has become so diluted with sex that there is no pride left. 

Personally, I am pissed off by the acts of the individuals who participate in such crude events. It’s embarrassing. And that stereotype? You created it yourself, darlings. 

Don’t get me wrong, many straight individuals participate in disgusting acts as well; things like strip clubs, prostitution, etc etc… That is disgusting too, and certainly not respect worthy. 

As Americans, we are free to do pretty much do anything. We are spoiled. Yes, the government is corrupt, but so is every other government on this planet. The point is simple…. if you wanna take off your shirt and rub your body in oil while making out with the guy next to you during a parade that is suppose to help the gay community out, you have that right. I am comfortable enough in my own skin to keep my shirt ON and let my voice be heard. 

Unfortunately, many gays are not heard because we all know sex sells, and intellect does not. 

Many Gay Americans are being stereotyped because of these public displays, and It needs to stop. 

Think about any other minorities in American history that had to fight for their rights…. They had to overcome their stereotypes in some manor in order to obtain respect from an uninformed society. 

Any gay, straight, bisexual, or trans gender person that is acting out will get us nowhere. 

Come on guys, we are a minority. We already have had a bad rap, why do you keep on doing it? 

Thanks to those like Tela Tequila, Gay Pride, and (many) Gay Bars and Saloons, gays will continue to live legally single.



Conspiracy: Life.

May 24, 2009 - Leave a Response

Is anyone really alive?  Who knows these days. As I sit here in Cincinnati; a city of crime, dirt, and the home of most of my family — I think about this chip on my shoulder, and I wonder if it is even worth thinking about. 


I want to move to Alaska, join a Native American tribe, do scientific research on wild animals, wear Eddie Bauer, Ralph Lauren, and L.L Bean.  


I have one more month until I make a transition back to Europe.  I am excited but I am scared.  More than anything, I just want to see my best friend Tea.


It’s hard trusting anyone these days — People who you thought were your friends end up stabbing you in the back — 



Music In Vogue – Tori Amos

May 17, 2009 - Leave a Response

Tori Amos’ new cd “Abnormally Attracted to Sin” is set to release May 19th.   To  pre-listen to all the track, you can check out her myspace:



Viktor and Rolf  are always a favorite of Tori… but we also see her in beautiful Louis Vuitton platforms for the album shoot.

Conspiracy: Non-Fiction

May 14, 2009 - Leave a Response

Non-fiction is nonexistent.  Everything is just a story we’ve convinced ourselves is true. 


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