Archive for the ‘Uncategorized’ Category

New England Style
June 19, 2009

I have to say, my “up -brining” in New England has always had a huge effect on my style  – L L Bean and Ralph Lauren leading the way.

When I think of fashion, I think of New England – Rocky beaches,  woods, the most beautiful fall leaves, Witch Trials and WASPS.  New England is the classiest place in the United States.  I am an east coast boy and I would barf if I was transplanted in the west (minus Washington state and Montana).

Some icons that bring me back to the style are:

The characters from Margot at the Wedding(especially Margot).  Typical New England bitch, played  by the one and only Nicole Kidman.



Sissey Spacek from In The Bedroom  – This is the “It’s chilly outside and I look so cozy, I want a book” look.  Does’t she look so cozy? Even with that cancer stick, Sissy Spacek in  In The Bedroom takes you to a cozy new england place with a cup of hot cider.


Nicole Kidman as Virgina Woolf in The Hours. Altough her character (virgina wolf) was British (we like Cornwall) , her style is beautiful.  Plus, they dont’t call it “NEW” England for nothing.


Winona Ryder in The Crucible.  The Crucible has some of the best fashion I have ever seen.  This movie is about witch trials in Massachusetts.  It’s brilliant. It’s dark. It’s cozy. Its New England.


All the Characters in BeetleJuice.  BeetleJuice actually takes place in my home state of Connecticut.  The fashion in this movie is incedibly chic.



Finally, some accessories for a complete New England Style:

Volvo station wagon 240 (A MUST HAVE)


Bike with a Basket (For weekends in Nantucket)


L.L. Bean Boots (are a MUST).  With all the rain and snow that comes in the fall/winter/spring and SUMMER, you cannot live without these.

ll bean boot

A haunted house ( All houses in New England are haunted. If yours isnt, GET OUT)


A Night Cap

night cap

Finally, Candles. Not scented candles (although Yankee candles, we love) but you’ll find that your electricity goes out in the winter all the time because if blizzards with snow that is so high, you cant open your door.


Just make sure you have a overly judgmental and “im better than you” personality, and you will fit right in with other New Englanders.


Return To Brugge 2009
June 11, 2009

In three weeks, I will be back.  Back to Brugge. What can I say?  I am euphoric. I cannot wait to take care of my favorite kids; go on walks, go to the park, make them do homework (hehehe), cook, play… It all sounds so amazing right now.

After 5 months in this hell, I cannot wait to get back to Europe, back to life.

I have kept my mouth shut for the past semester, and I am surprised that I really made it this long.

The first thing I want to do in Brugge is get frittes.  After, I want to get a waffle.  After that I want to sleep.


Legally Single. I might be against Gay Marriage.
May 28, 2009

Proposition 8. Enough already. As a gay man, you might be surprised to hear that I was not shocked that the outcome of Proposition 8 in California was upheld. Infact, I’m not so sure I would have voted any differently then the most conservative citizen of the United States of America who has little to no contact with a gay person. 

The freedom and the right to get married comes down to one thing for the gay community: respect. My mother always told me; in order to get respect, you have to respect yourself first. 

For many uninformed Americans, there is a stereotype for the gay community; sex, drugs, disease, and partying. Respect worthy? No, I dont think so. As a gay man, I am certainly aware that this stereotype is not necessarily true for the entire gay community. However, to most uninformed Americans, this is the only picture that is being painted over and over each year to remind them of how disgusting the gay community can be…. and I totally agree. It is disgusting. 

The day I can go into a gay bar and not feel like I lost my virginity from every poking finger to my ass, or shower stalls in the middle of the club for men to publicly shower in and engage in sexual acts, or bathroom stalls that are solely for the purpose of sex, is the day that I might think gay marriage is possible. 

One of the most important and influential factors to informing the uninformed about homosexuality is Gay Pride. Gay Pride for me is more like Gay Ashamed. Every year, in Chicago during the Gay Pride festival, I used to stay clear of anything north of Michigan Avenue. What I saw at Pride was shocking. 

Stop using your dicks, and start using your voices. 

If you want to be heard, keep your shirt on and your legs closed. Blow jobs in alleys, crude displays of public affection on every float, drunk gay guys making out with anyone who has a face … I feel like I’m getting an STD just from thinking about it. 

I think pride in oneself is a beautiful thing. But I dont see pride at Gay Pride events, I see sex. And if I see it, then America sees it too. 

Gay awareness and pride is something that America needs. I think the original concept of Gay Pride was perhaps a beautiful and powerful thing, but it has become so diluted with sex that there is no pride left. 

Personally, I am pissed off by the acts of the individuals who participate in such crude events. It’s embarrassing. And that stereotype? You created it yourself, darlings. 

Don’t get me wrong, many straight individuals participate in disgusting acts as well; things like strip clubs, prostitution, etc etc… That is disgusting too, and certainly not respect worthy. 

As Americans, we are free to do pretty much do anything. We are spoiled. Yes, the government is corrupt, but so is every other government on this planet. The point is simple…. if you wanna take off your shirt and rub your body in oil while making out with the guy next to you during a parade that is suppose to help the gay community out, you have that right. I am comfortable enough in my own skin to keep my shirt ON and let my voice be heard. 

Unfortunately, many gays are not heard because we all know sex sells, and intellect does not. 

Many Gay Americans are being stereotyped because of these public displays, and It needs to stop. 

Think about any other minorities in American history that had to fight for their rights…. They had to overcome their stereotypes in some manor in order to obtain respect from an uninformed society. 

Any gay, straight, bisexual, or trans gender person that is acting out will get us nowhere. 

Come on guys, we are a minority. We already have had a bad rap, why do you keep on doing it? 

Thanks to those like Tela Tequila, Gay Pride, and (many) Gay Bars and Saloons, gays will continue to live legally single.



Swine Flu
April 30, 2009

Swine Flu:  It’s here, It’s queer, It’s my fear.  

Within the past week, the “swine flu” in the United States has swept the nation faster than you can say “kill me now”.    According to CNN, the symptoms of the Swine Flu are as followed:  Pooping, Peeing, Barfing, Yaking, and finally, dying.  

If you have any of these symptoms, stop reading my blog. I don’t want to catch it. 

It started in Mexico (of course), and has now spread all over the United States …including my home state of Tennessee.  Muchos Gracias Mexico. Don’t get me wrong, I am all for illegal immigrants, but por favor, leave your swine at home.  

To prevent Swine flu you can do one of the following :

1. Kill yourself before it kills you

2. Lock yourself in a room and don’t come out till the pendemic is over (I suggest this one, but bring a book). 

3.  If you MUST (and I really emphasize “MUST”) leave the house before there is a cure… NEVER UNDER ANY CIRCUMSTANCES TALK, HUG, KISS, OR EVEN LOOK AT ANOTHER HUMAN BEING. not even your mother. 

According to Wikipedia “Social distancing is another tactic. It means staying away from other people who might be infected and can include avoiding large gatherings, spreading out a little at work, or perhaps staying home and lying low if an infection is spreading in a community.”  No, it means staying away from everyone.  

The more I think about it, the more I realize the Swine flu is just another slap in the face to those people that eat animals, specifcally pork.   “Can you blame nature if she’s had enough of us?” – Tor Amos. 

In the meantime, I am not talking to anyone and keeping to myself.  Here is a chart to keep yourself in check about the swine flu:



I’ve moved
April 30, 2009

Hello and my name is Matthew Sabato.  As you’ve read above, this blog is a refuge for hypochondriacs and fashion victims.  I just want to start by saying that I don’t want to die.  I am afraid of death. I am afraid of disease.  I am afraid of Donatella Versace.  

I created this blog in the hopes that it can bring together those who daily think:  am I dying?  is this herpes or a pimple?  is it cancer or just another day?  is that my reflection or just a case of swine flu?   Is that Bell’s Palsy or am I watching Beauty and the Beast? 

In this time, America is suffering from disease.   Everywhere I turn, I see death. I see disease. How can I make any friends around here?  Its like sickness is a popularity contest.  

But I prefer to stay healthy. And in the meantime, I will not visit sites such as,, or try to meet guys off craigslist (although, the craiglist killer was kind of hot).  Instead, I will stay here. I will inform you of the latest, the greatest, and the deadliest.